I received permission to post excerpts from a marvelous article on disenfranchised grief and secondary trauma written by a 'babyloss mom' and clinical psychologist. It is posted on the "For Family and Friends" page.
(Read the rest.)
To many people hearing about a dead child is terribly upsetting, and even traumatizing. That is secondary trauma. If the person who experienced the trauma wouldn't be telling their story, then the other person wouldn't be traumatized, too.
So, if it is that upsetting, why don't these babyloss parents just keep their mouths shut and be polite?