Monday, July 16, 2012

Was this site helpful?

Please leave me a comment if you can (anonymous comments are fine) letting me know if this site was helpful. Also let me know if there's something that you feel needs to be here or something you see that needs correcting. If you would like to contact me privately you may do so at lostinnocentsorthodox (at) gmail.com.

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21 comments:

  1. This site is beyond helpful. There is such a gap in this area! Thank you for creating a warm and truthful place that helps promote healing and mercy.

    God Bless You, Lord have mercy on us all.

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  2. Thank you for your site it helped me a lot I lost my baby two weeks ago heartbeat stopped at 8 weeks 5 days and it took me three weeks to pass her, I say it was a girl never knew the sex. But I passed her on 7/14 she came out in placenta and I didn't know what to expect I wanted to have my baby cremated but I wanted to see her so I asked funeral home to get her out of placenta which they did and I saw my baby girl and it was like the pictures shown here and to many it will be a fetus but to me it was another one of my babies I felt the contractions and had her like giving birth to my other girls and I will never regret that I read a lot of stories here and I knew I was not alone and I appreciate that, funeral home was supportive but a little shocked but I didn't feel bad or weird because I know that other people have done it to their babies again thank you and for everyone going through this I'm sorry it's not easy and remember that God does it for a reason, even though I question a lot why in my heart I know the answer and I tell myself she was too good for this earth and went straight to heaven to be my little guardian angel.

    Liz

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  3. Liz, I'm so sorry for the loss of your little girl. I'm glad the funeral home was supportive and you had the chance to see her. Many times (and I probably need to make this more clear here on the site) a clot will have formed completely around the gestational sac. In that case it would look a little like the baby was "in" the placenta. It is partially a function of how long the baby has been gone, but that's not written in stone. In any case, I'm glad you got to see her. Bless you for your strength and I'm glad you were able to find some help here. ((hugs))

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  4. Thank you. It is helpful.

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  5. So very helpful. Just had my 4th miscarriage (10 wks). Feeling so very numb and confused but clinging onto God and experiencing his peace. Thank you for sharing your experiences and for shining forth the light of Christ in the darkness. My heart goes out to you and I pray you will know His peace, comfort and love. God bless,

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  6. Anon., I'm so sorry about your fourth loss! May God comfort you and continue to provide the peace that will carry you through this. You're not alone.

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  7. Matushka Anna, this is Pamela L. from ProLifeBook. I was hoping for your permission to use a photo of Innocent today. I may have to show it to a friend who is twelve weeks pregnant and thinking of aborting her child. Innocent is probably the most stunning twelve-week-old baby I've ever seen, so I'm hoping once she sees how big the baby actually is and how perfectly formed, she changes her mind. Please do let me know as soon as humanly possible! Thank you! :)

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  8. Pamela, of course you may show her the photos of Innocent. If you need additional ones (details, additional views) please email me and let me know and I can send them to you. I have very, very clear shots of Andrew as well (and we suspect he may have been closer to 12 weeks than 13 but we're not sure) that I could send you. Just email me at lostinnocentsorthodox@gmail.com

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  9. Thank you for the comforting site. You helped me grove and know what to expect in our loss.

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  10. grieve (not grove)

    By the way, we are practically neighbors. My husband is a deacon in Louisiana.

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  11. I'm glad it was helpful, Monica. (Come see us sometime!!)

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  12. Thank you for your straight forward, but still gentle & compassionate approach to miscarriage. I came across your site (and a couple others) several weeks ago, long before anything was wrong. A week and a half ago at 17 weeks 3 days I began to suspect something was wrong, and at my appointment last Thursday we found that my baby's heart had stopped. I was sent to the hospital for an induction and had him on Friday 8/16. He was my 4th child and 1st miscarriage. It has very possibly been the hardest thing I ever have or will have to deal with and I'm grateful for the information I came across on your site that helped prepare me a little bit. I'd love to share my experience/ pictures with you if I could, but I'm not sure how that works...

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  13. Pixiedust, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your son. May his memory be eternal! You can feel free to email me at lostinnocentsorthodox@gmail.com. I'd be honored to share your story and photos.

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  14. I just lost my baby boy after 12 weeks of pregnancy. It has been the hardest experience of my life, both physically and emotionally. I had decided not to have a d&c, to stay home and let nature take its course. I wanted to be as prepared as possible for what was about to happen, so I started researching online looking for a clue as to what I might go through and what my baby would look like. Finding your blog and seeing the pictures was extremely helpful. Also, knowing that so many other women had gone through the same thing gave me comfort. Thank you so much for your blog and I also want to thank everyone for sharing their stories and pictures.

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  15. Katie,

    I'm so very sorry for the loss of your son. I'm glad this site was of some help and comfort. ((Hugs))

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  16. This site was extremely helpful with understanding what to expect and how to prepare for/recognize my baby. I appreciate having it as a resource during one of the toughest moments in my life. God bless all the brave mothers who were strong enough to share their pictures and experiences.

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  17. Thank you for the depth of information here. I wish I had found this site 2 weeks ago. Reading the journeys that other people have and are still taking has been so helpful in understanding my own grief. Our daughter, Elizabetta was born at 16 weeks gestation last week into God's hands. Could a section be adding encompassing the grief of siblings and helping them to understand. My six children aged 3-17yrs have all taken different paths. I am so overwhelmed with my own grief that at times I struggle to nurture theirs. We have involved them in this whole process and talk openly about Elizabetta, which I think helps them. They are my light and joy but there innocence often hurts so much. My 3yr old taking my hand and leading me to the baby clothes and declaring that we can't buy these now because our baby died, broke my heart because she was expressing her sadness. We then spent time 'choosing' things for Elizabetta. It's so very hard to walk this path and can only thank God for taking each step with me. Writing poems and a diary have also helped me get some of the grief out. I'm happy to share the poems if you think they would be helpful.
    God bless all who have suffered loss.
    Karen

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  18. Karen, I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter, Elizabetta. May her memory be eternal! I thought I had addressed sibling grief somewhere on this site, but it looks like I have not. At some point I will add a section under "Picking up the Pieces". Thank you so much for the suggestion.

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  19. Thank you so much for this site. I have found it in New Zealand, and am expecting to go to hospital tomorrow for an induced labour for our baby who died at 13 weeks. It was a missed miscarriage so we are four weeks on now. I have asked the hospital so many questions, and desperately looked on the internet to find out more information especially for a baby at our gestation. I found it so helpful reading others stories and especially seeing photos even though it was really hard. I have had so many questions about how to preserve baby and its so helpful that people are willing to share their stories so others can benefit from their experience. Thank you thank you!!

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  20. To everyone on here and out there, who has gone or is going through a loss... My heart, sincerely, goes out to you!

    I just completed my natural miscarriage. I waited four weeks, after the diagnosis (missed miscarriage at 10 weeks). Literally, I bled (one small clot, that was it) on the Friday of the 3rd week after the diagnosis. Nothing had happened prior to that. The following week (4th week after the diagnosis) I started to bleed, like a normal period (three pads in 24 hrs, not even full), and in the early morning of the following day, my baby was born, without warning, pain or blood... "Something" fell in the toilet, covered in a thin blood clot. I had no idea what it was, and after reading all the stories online, there was no way I was going to believe that I was that "lucky" to not have to go through extreme physical pain or excessive bleeding. Still, I pulled "it" out, I don't know why... I put "it" in the bathroom sink, and I carefully washed the blood off, only to discover that under the thin blood clot that was covering "it" there was tissue. That's all I could think of it, at the time. (Had I found this website sooner, I would've known better). Long (sad) story short... It turned out that, what my body expelled in that early morning, was indeed my baby and that was all, to which I had to give birth. Subsequent, recent, blood exams and medical appointments confirmed that I had, indeed, completed my natural miscarriage. I never had contractions, I was just going on about my days, giving my baby time to leave, when he was ready (I think it was a boy). Just a hunch. I remember me saying to myself, whilst talking to my angel, "Darling, mum is in no rush, take your time. I'll walk with you. I'll dance with you, while I do the dishes. I'll do what I normally do. This is who your mum is. We would've had a blast!" I thank my baby for being so gentle to/with/on me. At the same time, what happened to me might just be something odd; but it happened in that way. I did nothing but wait, patiently. I drank organic Red Raspberry Leaf tea for three days, prior to the miscarriage; but that's because I was told that it strengthens the uterus for contractions (I never had any). I only had some minor lower back pain, at night, for four days, prior to the semiconductor bleeding and miscarriage. But nothing major, I took one Tylenol before going to bed, during those four nights. During the day I was fine.

    I'm here to ask Matushka Anna for a huge favor, I'd like to know if she would be kind enough to accept the only two images that I have of my baby... Since I had no idea, when I actually miscarried, that I was in fact miscarrying, after I washed the tissue and saw nothing particularly clear with my naked eye at 4am, I put it back in the toilet and flushed it... As time went by, I started to regret that and I've cried (I still do) because I didn't get a chance to say bye to my baby, how I had in mind. I had no idea that I was miscarrying at that precise time. So, I'd like to treat this, extremely useful and loving website, as the final resting place for the loving memory of my little angel, my lost innocent.

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  21. Ivy, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your baby. Thank you for sharing your story with us and I'd be honored to post the photos you took. Please email me at lostinnocentsorthodox (at) gmail (dot) com.

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