Photographs

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. --Genesis 1:27

It can be worrisome thinking about retrieving your baby for burial. One of the problems is knowing what you're looking for. If your baby is sixteen weeks gestation then there's no problem recognizing him. It's a different story if you're six weeks. Looking on the internet for photographs to aid you is a sticky business because you're likely to come across things you'd rather not have seen. I have culled the internet for some photographs of babies at each week gestation and have included sizes if the baby is not in a recognizable context. A heartfelt "thank you" to all of the women who have graciously allowed me to post photographs of their babies. [You may notice that some of these are "stock photos". If you have natural photographs of your baby and would feel ok with them being included on this page, I would be grateful to hear from you.]

[Important note on recognizing the baby: Depending on how long it has been since the baby died, you may see something different in terms of the sac. Usually the amount of amniotic fluid decreases over time so depending on how much there was to start with, you may or may not see a nice, full "bubble". In addition (and this is important), the uterus will form a clot around the sac/baby as time goes on. This means that you may deliver the baby in the sac very obviously, or you may deliver a sac with a clot attached, or you may deliver what appears to be a large clot or placenta but which is actually the sac enclosed in a clot. Especially if you feel as though you are completing the miscarriage but haven't seen the sac, check inside the large clots. This sounds gross, but it will feel a little different when you are looking for your baby. The clot will be on the sac, not the baby (all things being equal) so you will still be able to remove the baby from the sac if you so desire. When my first son was born his sac had a large clot attached. It covered about 1/3 of the surface. When my second son was born there was no clot attached at all.]

Four Weeks (four weeks gestation is counting from your last menstrual period and is about the earliest most people realize they're pregnant)
and Five Weeks:

I was unable to find a decent photograph. At this stage you may not recognize the baby for what it is. You may see a very small whitish or greyish piece of tissue, possibly with a cord attached, probably in a fluid-filled sac. You will also probably have heavy bleeding with clots. It can be difficult to retrieve the baby at this stage.

Four Weeks: 1/8 inch long (source)

Five weeks, 2 days: (source)


Six Weeks


approximately 0.5 cm (source)


Seven Weeks 

approximately 1 cm (source)


Eight Weeks

(These pictures are of Bethany's baby, Blessing)



(These pictures are of Lisanne's baby, Shiloh Rune. [Story])

Shiloh is in the middle of the photograph inside the sac, right on the edge.

Next to the sac



Nine Weeks

(This is Linda's baby, Kateri (9.5 weeks))


(This is Candy's baby, Kendall (9 weeks, 5 days)) [story]




Ten Weeks  (Shelley's baby, Mason)



Eleven Weeks (Eliane's baby, Noah) (Noah looks closer to 13 weeks leading me to think that he was 11 weeks from conception, not LMP)




Twelve Weeks

(This is Andrew [story]. He was 13 weeks but appeared closer to 12.)


9 cm, 1 ounce

(This is Innocent [story]. He was 12 weeks 5 days.)




 Thirteen Weeks (Amanda's baby, Rowan)

approximately 7 cm


Fourteen Weeks



Fifteen Weeks (Amelia's baby, Micah)


(Micah's legs are resting on his belly; you can see the stump of his cord in the middle.)






Sixteen Weeks

         (This is Diana's baby, Owen (16wks,3d))


(This is Jennifer's baby, Ava May (approx 16wks but may be younger))

4.5 in or 12 cm



A view of Ava still in the sac with the placenta behind.



Seventeen Weeks 

(This is Morgan's baby, Emerson (17 weeks, 3 days): "Induced after we found out his heart had stopped within the previous 24 hours. He was born with his cord wrapped three times around his neck.")

160g (5.6 oz) , roughly 9" long


(I do not have permission to post these pictures, but there is a lovely series of photographs of Gene and Melodie's son, Caleb at this link. They have graciously allowed me to link back to them.)


Eighteen Weeks
     (Diana's baby, Sophia (17 weeks, 5 days))



     (Natasha's baby, Jeremiah)






Nineteen Weeks (Amanda's baby, Levi)




Thirty Weeks: (Melissa's baby, Calypso (29 wks, 5 d))

(Note: Calypso was born alive and lived for 23 days before entering Heaven.)


13 inches, 3 lbs, 1.9 oz





Thirty-three Weeks: (Trish's baby, Evelyn [story])




Full Term: (Kara's baby, Evan)


(Both photos taken by Captiv8ed Photography)


**Please note that these photographs are of people's children, no matter how small. If you wish to use one of these photos for any reason, please contact me or the originator of the photograph (always linked) before you do. I have had many requests to repost photos of Innocent and others and I have no problem with that if they are not used in an exploitative way or for someone's profit. But do please ask first because it can cause a lot of pain for a parent to come across their child's photo when they are not prepared for it. Thank you.**

Here are some sites that have parent-submitted photographs of still-born and miscarried babies. The majority are later gestation but there are a few earlier gestation. These sites generally feature portrait type photographs.

Missing Angel Foundation (This site is primarily of later gestation to full-term babies.)
Stillborn Angels (This site has a few more early gestation babies.)
Stillbirthday (This page has been recently created and has babies classified by gestational age, similar to this page)

[Additional note: There are frequent visitors from pages containing arguments that an X week baby does not look like a baby (and therefore is fine to kill). Look at this logically: We all start from two cells. How can two cells look like a three month old? Those cells divide and divide etc. and eventually you can see the beginning of eyes and arm and leg buds (not to mention the complex workings inside). The ad hominem argument that is most frequently used is this: "Such and such model of a tiny baby doesn't look exactly like the real thing therefore all pre-born babies are fine to kill." Because the nose on a silicone model, used to give people the idea of what a baby at X weeks looks like, is slightly more prominent than on the actual baby doesn't mean the entire model is a figment of someone's imagination. If anyone has any doubt about what an 8 or 10 or 12 week baby looks like, you need only look at the photographs above. If you're trying to convey this information to someone else, I ask that you please do not copy the photograph, just link back to this page. Thank you.]

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

I had twins. I lost one at 7weeks. I try not to talk about it because of the reactions I get. One: "Focus on the living child." Two: "How far along were you?" Three: "At least you didnt have to bury your baby." All of these make me angry. It doesnt matter how far along I was. He(I am convinced the other twin was a boy) was still my baby. He was a plan, no accident here. He was an AI baby. I planned for him. I wanted him. And I would've given anything to touch my baby boy. To have a picture. A burial. I feel robbed. Even after he passed, I had to carry him. His sister, now 4yrs old, carried on. She is the light of my life, but not a day goes by that I dont think of him. I had to watch him slowly fade, until he finally came out. It was a blood bath and very traumatic. All I wanted was to bury my son. He was in pieces. I never got to say goodbye. I keep all of this bottled up inside bc no one understands. This site is a blessing. I am crying as I write, but I know that someone out there knows how I feel. I dont want anyone to try and make me feel better. I just wanna be able to talk about him. His name was Corbin Tyler. The twins' room was unisex. Pooh and Friends. I bought matching Pooh bears for them. I still have his in a box. I heard his heart beat. I talked to him everyday. I rubbed him everyday. I am so thankful his sister survived. I wonder how they would play together. I daydream about it all the time. I try and picture him sitting on the floor with her. All I wanted was to say goodbye.

Matushka Anna said...

Anon., I'm very sorry for your loss. No matter how happy you are that your daughter is alive, you still have a right to grieve for your son. I think that people not understanding that fact is a very common problem. May Corbin Tyler's memory be eternal!

(In case you or anyone reading this would find this helpful, this is a site to help people through the loss of one twin: http://www.climb-support.org/index.html?onetwin)

Olivia said...

I am so grateful to have found this site. I just found out yesterday that my baby's heart stopped beating at 11 weeks 1 day. I would be 11 weeks 5 days today. I am devastated, but I thought seeing a picture of what my baby should look like right now might help me in this process as I grieve. My heart and love go out to everyone that has gone through this or will go through this. I continue to believe that God is good and lean on His comfort, peace and strength.

Matushka Anna said...

Olivia, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. May God comfort you and give you peace. I'm glad this site has been helpful. If you need information you do not see on here or need to talk, you can email me at lostinnocentsorthodox@gmail.com.

Renee kawaii said...

Thank you for sharing your little angels with us. I am excited I am pregnant 16 weeks and seeing how formed my baby is in real form makes me appreciate the life inside of me that much more. I am sorry for everyone that has lost a baby but just know that you now have to live for you, your family and this lil precious life. Everything will be ok. People love and pray for you even though you don't know them. God Bless everyone.

Jennifer said...

I miscarried at 8wks in 2007, our son Marcos was stillborn at 34 weeks on May 13, 2011, our daughter Aubree was stillborn at 34 weeks on October 23, 2012. I've never been so hurt in my life, my husband and I have no living children. :( Nothing will ever be the same. I don't know what questions to ask the docs, I'm not sure if I even want to try to have another, I know if I do, that child won't ever replace my baby angels!! :( A persons a person, no matter how small!

Matushka Anna said...

Jennifer,

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your children. Especially to have experienced the loss of Marcos, then to lose Aubree at the same gestation the next year. You have a lovely website in their honor. Please do contact me via email. (lostinnocentsorthodox@gmail.com)

Anonymous said...

My son was born at 28 weeks. Three pounds. Lots if problems the first year, some learning delays in the early years. He is 23 now, healthy, not quite 6 feet. Looking at these pictures wows me. It could have ended very different.

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for this site. I just found I had my first miscarriage, I was only about 4 weeks along, possibly less, I didn't even know I was pregnant and thought I was experiencing a late period. I'm certain I passed my baby early in what I thought was my "period", so I didn't get to see him or touch him. I know it was such an early loss that some wouldn't deem it really a loss, but I am still shocked when I realize I first knew for certain I was pregnant when my baby was already dead. I'm haunted by feeling that I shouldn't grieve so young a death, that no one would really consider it a death anyway. Yet I'm also haunted by wondering where my baby is now and why I'll never meet him? Thank you for helping me believe what I know: that my grieving is right and my baby is precious. I have a beautiful daughter and loving husband but I still grieve the baby I'll never meet.

Matushka Anna said...

Anon,
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Regardless of what some may think, yes, that was a human life and precious to God and to you. You have every right to grieve. Having those haunting feelings is normal - when I first posted and told everyone about Innocent he had already departed this life, I just didn't know it. That haunted me for a long time. It will get easier as time goes by. You won't stop missing him and the grief doesn't disappear, but it just becomes an easier load to carry. One day you will see your child again, that is certain. I know it's "not the same", but it will be joyous, however hard it is to imagine now. ((hugs))

Anonymous said...

I had ivf treatment and at 7 weeks had scan and seen heartbeat. At 9 week scan no heartbeat and measured correct for gestation so heart had only just stopped. Miscarried at home and found my baby and have buried him. Im glad i did, even though others thought it was strange . He was my one baby, who i did hold, but not in way i imagined. This happened only 3 weeks ago.

Matushka Anna said...

Anon, I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't worry about what others think, you did the right thing. It will bring you peace in the future. Memory eternal!

Jennifer said...

Among searching the internet for pictures to prepare myself for what is to come, I was fortunate enough to find your website and am very grateful for it. I went in last week to have an ultrasound to find out the sex of our baby. I was 17 weeks 2 days. They told us that she was a little girl, but since this was just an imaging center and not a doctor, they couldn't tell us anything else. I knew though, as I looked at the moniter, frantically searching for a heartbeat, movement.... nothing. About an hour later, my midwife called and told me that the ultrasound tech had detected fetal demise. My husband and I are absolutely devestated, as are our living children ages 10 and 7.
I have decided to labor and deliver naturally at home and I've been trying to prepare myself for what is to come. I have decided to bury my baby girl, Ava !ay. I have purchased a biodegradle box to place her in and bury her with some flowers (forget me nots)
My doula plans to help me take footprints, handprints, and pictures. I would love to share them with you for all who needs to see when the time comes.

Jennifer said...

Ava May*

Matushka Anna said...

Oh, Jennifer, I'm so sorry. There's nothing to prepare you for that shock when it comes. It's like a bottomless pit. I'm glad you have time to prepare and that you found this site helpful. Feel free to email me at lostinnocentsorthodox at gmail dot com if you would like to share anything (or if you have any questions). You are blessed to have a doula who will be helping.

Anonymous said...

Hey Matushka,
After attending a friend's birth, I discovered a beautiful organization that does a magnificent job of photographing births/babies no matter how old. They do not charge for their services in the event of miscarriage or stillbirth. Don't know if you've heard of them or not, but just wanted to spread the word about them. https://www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org/

Matushka Anna said...

Anonymous, I do have links to Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep on the resources page, etc. The babies generally must be 25 weeks gestation or more but it can be up to the discretion of the photographer. I think they provide an incredible service to grieving families.