Wednesday, November 26, 2014

A Prayer of Thanksgiving

Most merciful Lord, we thank Thee for allowing us to share in the wonder of thy creation by being co-creators of these precious lives. We thank Thee for the blessing of time spent with our children, however short it may seem to us in this life, and for the assurances of their eternal life in Heaven, free from all trouble, pain and sorrow. We know that Thou hast immeasurable love for our children, as well as for ourselves. Grant that we may live with peace and gratitude, free from any bitterness, knowing that one day we will be reunited with the souls of our children. O Lord, Thou who will wipe every tear from every face, comfort us in our sorrow, and grant our souls great mercy. Amen.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Assistance needed with new resource

I would like to have a page with a list of Orthodox monasteries and churches who make cemetery space available for miscarried infants. Ideally I would list these by state. BUT, while I know of a few, it's not many. So I'm going to need your help!

Here are a few I am aware of. Please add any others in the comments and I will start putting together a page. Share this around so it gets wider exposure. I think something like this would be very helpful.

I do want to keep this to Orthodox monasteries and churches. While I am sure there are many places for Catholics and Protestants to bury miscarried babies, Orthodox Christians need to know what is available to them too (and this is primarily an Orthodox site). 

Here is the link to the page so far.

Note: If you wish to bury your baby at any of these places, you need to contact the abbess/abbot/priest. They probably have restrictions on who can use their cemeteries.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Some site updates and thanks

This post is long-overdue. I need to publicly acknowledge some wonderful people for sharing photos of their children and stories of their miscarriages.

First, Ivy shared pictures of baby Bliss, and Kristen shared a photograph of her baby Ryan, both enclosed in a clot/sac (so you can't see the baby).

Sara shared pictures of her baby Simsim, unique because the baby is between 5 and 6 weeks, very early to see photographs.

Evon shared a photograph of her baby Daniel with details carefully labeled.

Sarah shared a beautiful photo of baby Grace still in the sac at 8 weeks.

Tabitha shared pictures of her ten week baby Angel, both in the sac and out.

Chris shared the story of Xenia Diane, linked on the Your Stories page.

Most recently, Jillian shared photos and the story of her 10 week baby Ever Elliot. I posted these yesterday.

Thank you to all of these generous and loving women. May the memory of their babies be eternal!

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Memory Eternal!

International Wave of Light

(Taken verbatim from my main blog, A Creative Slice):

Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. It is celebrated in many countries around the world although not entirely internationally. You can read a history of the day here.

It is believed that at least one in four women have lost a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death. If it has not happened to you, then you almost certainly know someone for whom it has. I can almost count on one hand the number of friends I have who have NOT experienced it. Despite the overwhelming prevalence, it is a subject that is not often discussed publicly. Women who lose babies tend to suffer in silence. At a time in their lives when they desperately need support, advice and love, they hide away, ashamed and suffering. This is most true of miscarriage. Many in the medical field reinforce the common belief that miscarriage is not a big deal, not much of a loss, especially when it takes place early in the pregnancy. I am here to tell you that it is not the case. I suffered greatly over each one of my losses. Every one is an immortal soul, created by God, and a unique person. They are much-loved members of our family, even though they never drew breath.

I invite you to participate in the International Wave of Light from 7 PM to 8 PM your local time. Light a candle or candles in memory of those who have departed this life too soon. Say a prayer for peace for the grieving friends and family. 

Here are a few things you may want to look at or ponder today:

Lost Innocents: For Friends and Family (good advice)
Faces of Loss (putting a face on miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss)
Solace from Silence: Comforting the Bereaved (on the site, Naming the Child)
A Hidden Community (by Jennifer Hock on OCN)
Free e-books available today:

Losing Alex: the Night I Held an Angel
Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for Grieving Mothers
May the memory of the babies 
who passed so soon to heaven be eternal!

 In addition, just to let you all know (especially those who have asked me about it), I contacted Fr. John Matusiak about the memorial service for pre-born infants approved last year. He was given the job of editing and formatting it and will send it to me when it is done. I will post it here.

Thursday, August 28, 2014


If you have found this site, you most likely have lost a baby or are losing one. I'm so very sorry. I hate that anyone would need the information on this site, but I pray that it is helpful to you.

I'm aware that quite a number of non-Orthodox people have accessed this site and found it helpful and that's good. It was never my intention to be exclusive about who is welcome here! Even if you don't share my faith, please do avail yourself of the rest of the site. The pages that are most specific to Orthodoxy are Prayers and Liturgics and the Touchstone article. The Actual Process is entirely medical in nature and the Photographs page is just that. In addition, while many of the stories are about Orthodox families, not all of them are. All of this is simply to say that you should be able to find what you need comfortably without feeling like I'm forcing my faith upon you.

This site is always going to be a work in progress as more parents add their stories and photographs. In addition I will add any relevant news items here on the main page under this post. If there is anything you think should be added here or any corrections you would like to make, again, feel free to email me.

May the most Holy Lady Theotokos, the Mother of God, comfort you in your grief, as she has comforted me in mine.

-Matushka A.

Thursday, August 14, 2014

New Additions: Thea's Twins

Thea has graciously shared the story of the pregnancy and miscarriage of her twins with us. She had a missed miscarriage - the babies died at about 6 weeks but she didn't find out until about three and a half weeks later. A week after that she went into labor and delivered them at home. There are very clear photographs on The Actual Process and Photographs pages showing the sacs and Thea's story is now on the Your Stories page. My sincere thanks to Thea for honoring her children this way.

May the memory of her twins be eternal!