Thursday, February 27, 2014

Dawn's babies

A big thank you to Dawn for sharing photographs of her sweet children with us. David departed this life at 14 weeks and was born two weeks later at 16 weeks. Two photographs of him are on the Photographs page and more can be found on his home page (linked there). Hannah Grace was stillborn at 36 weeks. Like David, two photos of her are posted here and more can be found on her home page (linked there).

May David and Hannah Grace's memory be eternal!

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I just want to thank all of you who have so generously shared photographs of your sweet little ones gone too soon. You may never know who it is that is helped, comforted or touched by seeing your baby. I receive so many emails from women who have been comforted by seeing these photographs, women who, through one reason or another, never got to see their own lost babies. Thank you, so much. Also, I really appreciate the emails so many of you have sent, asking for prayers, letting me know how Lost Innocents helped you, etc. This can be a difficult project to work on and just a short note means so much more than you know.

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Jennifer's baby

Thank you so much to Jennifer and Ernie for sharing photographs of their baby, Journey (a combination of their names). Jennifer was nine weeks when her midwife was unable to find a heartbeat. Almost a week later she delivered the baby, still in the sac and attached to the placenta. While she was almost ten weeks into the pregnancy, Journey had stopped growing at six weeks. The photographs are stunning in their clarity and detail. Much like Sara's baby, Simsim, these photographs will be so helpful to so many women who don't know what to expect and what to look for when miscarrying.

May Journey's memory be eternal!

Sunday, February 16, 2014

Sara's Baby

I was surprised when I received an email from a woman on the other side of the world, offering photographs of her very young baby. Sara lost her baby at only approximately five weeks and was able to retrieve the body and photograph it. These photographs are now on our Photographs page through her generosity. They do not show a recognizable baby - it's simply too early - and include the umbilical cord and other tissue, but they are very important photos because the majority of women who miscarry do so at this early stage. It will be helpful for them to have some idea of what to expect. Thank you, Sara, for your generosity, and may your baby's memory be eternal!

Saturday, February 1, 2014

Valerie's Baby

I want to thank Valerie for contacting me and generously offering the story and photographs of her Little One who departed this life at 9 weeks, 4 days. There is a photo on the Photographs page and a link to Valerie's miscarriage story/blog on the Your Stories page. Valerie has written an honest and beautiful account of her miscarriage. I'm sure it will prove to be helpful to many.

May the memory of Little One be eternal!!

Sunday, January 5, 2014


If you have found this site, you most likely have lost a baby or are losing one. I'm so very sorry. I hate that anyone would need the information on this site, but I pray that it is helpful to you.

I'm aware that quite a number of non-Orthodox people have accessed this site and found it helpful and that's good. It was never my intention to be exclusive about who is welcome here! Even if you don't share my faith, please do avail yourself of the rest of the site. The pages that are most specific to Orthodoxy are Prayers and Liturgics and the Touchstone article. The Actual Process is entirely medical in nature and the Photographs page is just that. In addition, while many of the stories are about Orthodox families, not all of them are. All of this is simply to say that you should be able to find what you need comfortably without feeling like I'm forcing my faith upon you.

This site is always going to be a work in progress as more parents add their stories and photographs. In addition I will add any relevant news items here on the main page under this post. If there is anything you think should be added here or any corrections you would like to make, again, feel free to email me.

May the most Holy Lady Theotokos, the Mother of God, comfort you in your grief, as she has comforted me in mine.

-Matushka A.

Friday, December 6, 2013

Do unbaptized infants go to hell?

Another article on the eternal destination of infants who die before birth/before baptism.

Once, a lady came to my office to talk to me about the sadness she was experiencing for many years; she had had five miscarriages and was mourning the loss of her children. Her biggest difficulty with the issue, she explained, was that her children were condemned to hell because they were never baptized.

I asked her how she had come to that conclusion and she answered that she was taught early in her life that all people who die and have never been baptized go to hell, even infants, because of “original sin”.

The two questions I would like to raise here today are (1) “Where has this idea come from?” and (2) “Is this the teaching of the Ancient Christian Church?”

Read the rest.

Sunday, October 20, 2013

Services approved for preborn infants by the Holy Synod of the OCA

 Good news from the Holy Synod!!
[October 18, 2013  Syosset, NY] The Holy Synod of Bishops of the Orthodox Church in America concluded its fall session on Thursday, October 17, 2013. His Beatitude, Metropolitan Tikhon, chaired the session, which opened two days earlier.
According to Archpriest Eric G. Tosi, OCA Secretary, in addition to hearing the reports of the Chancellor, Secretary and Treasurer, the members of the Holy Synod took the following actions and decisions.
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The texts and order of two memorial services for pre-born infants—one that may be celebrated shortly after death, the other a funeral service—were approved for liturgical use upon the recommendation of His Eminence, Archbishop Benjamin.