Monday, October 26, 2015

Some Updates

 As I mentioned previously, the Assembly of Bishops was to consider our proposal of a miscarriage/stillbirth booklet for clergy when they met in mid-September. As it turns out, time was too short for it to make it to the agenda. This is disappointing, of course, but our subcommittee is considering publishing it independently. When I have any news on this, I will post it.

 Surprisingly, the OCA Holy Synod of Bishops approved a service for miscarried or stillborn babies when they met this past week for their fall meeting. I hadn't been aware that this was on the agenda and I'm not entirely sure of the source of the service (although it is possible that the overlapping members of the Assembly's Pastoral Practice Committee and the Holy Synod presented the service that we had worked on). In any event, the good news is there IS an approved service! It was just posted today and you can find it here. I am most grateful to the Holy Synod for approving this and making it available.

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance month (along with a host of other things). In addition, today is the feast of St. Demetrius the Myrrh-Gusher and the first birthday of our youngest baby, Demetrius. He died at 5 weeks, 5 days and was born a few weeks later on October 26th. Father buried him at the foot of his older brother Gabriel's grave. May his memory be eternal! In his honor I mailed today a package of small hats to Common Care, an organization which distributes care packages and tiny hats to bereaved parents.

Thursday, October 15, 2015

October 15th: International Wave of Light

October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, the day set aside to remember those babies who died before birth or shortly after. In every time zone across the world candles are lit at 7 PM, and kept lit for at least an hour, in remembrance of these sweet souls. As the day progresses a "wave of light" sweeps slowly around the globe.

Join me and millions of others today in remembering our lost babies. Light a candle at 7 PM, no matter where you live, and say a prayer for the souls of these departed children and for the grieving families who love them.

May their memory be eternal!

Friday, September 4, 2015

100 Hats for Common Care

I have a challenge for my readers: can we make and donate at least 100 hats to Common Care during the next two months? I sent off nine little hats in the mail today (shown in the photo) so that's a start! Michelle (the director of Common Care) is flat out of hats and needs more to send to grieving families.

You can find more information about making hats on my post here, and information for Common Care here or on Facebook here.

If you make some hats and send them, feel free to post a photo of your hats on the Lost Innocents Facebook page!

Wednesday, September 2, 2015


It's unbelievable to me that you can have someone with the appendage "MD" saying that the photographs on this site (and others) are faked. I guess it goes to show that just because someone has MD after their name it doesn't necessarily mean they know what they're talking about. Sheesh.

Monday, August 17, 2015

Seeking Tiny Hats

For a few years I made and donated tiny hats to the Calvin's Hats ministry. They collected hats people made and sent them in batches to hospitals and other ministries, and mailed out individual hats to people who requested them. The hats ranged in size from absolutely tiny to that which would fit a small orange.

Sadly, Calvin's Hats was a victim of its own success and the ministry had to shut down. My good friend Michelle started a ministry, Common Care, for those who suffered a pregnancy or infant loss and she had been distributing hats from a batch donation from Calvin's Hats. They're all but gone now and she needs more hats in stock to be able to give to grieving families. I volunteered to make and send her some but realized that I am only one person! Can any of you who knit or crochet consider making a few hats and setting them aside for Common Care?

There are some linked patterns on Lost Innocents as well as available by internet search. If anyone has specific questions about size, material, etc., I am happy to answer them. The majority of the hats will not be actually worn by the babies in question, but should still be made of soft, not scratchy or very bulky yarn. Hats in all lighter colors would be good, avoiding super-saturated brights. Having a good number of gender neutral colors is also good. Feel free to add any tiny bows or embellishments that make the hat personal. I will attach some photos below this post to serve as some examples.

Michelle is in the middle of moving between states so the address I have will not be active until August 26th. In addition, because it is a private address, please email to ask for it ( A dedicated PO box will be set up at a later date.

God bless you for your efforts! From what I have heard from bereaved families, these hats are treasured more than you can imagine.

New photos and stories

A big 'thank you' to Sandra and Leonie for sharing their stories and photos of their miscarried children. I am always humbled by the generosity with which women contact me and ask me to post their photos and stories. This helps other suffering women so much! May God bless you all for your kindness!