Tuesday, September 18, 2012

1st trimester/early 2nd trimester prenatal loss set

I wanted to share the set I made for You are my Child. I've sent photos to the owner to see if it's ok before mailing it, but just felt like sharing it here. It was so therapeutic to work on because I thought of how much it would help another family to see their little girl in something pretty.

Two matching blankets (11 inches square)

Pouch (7 inches square)

(The baby is slipped feet-first into the pocket.)

(The ribbons are tied to wrap the baby.)

Two matching dolls (2 3/4 inches long - they have cloth diapers on underneath)

One doll could be placed next to the baby and the other kept with the parents.

The set

Sunday, September 16, 2012

New Page: Comfort

Many sites about pregnancy and infant loss have photos and drawings of babies with wings, butterflies, poetry, etc. I can only speak for myself when I say that my only comfort has derived from reality. Sometimes reality is a harsh thing, but there is something about death that strips away all the fluff. For me, my faith is reality. Orthodoxy is not my religion, it is not "a religion" at all - it is Life. I know with all certainty that my children are in Heaven at the feet of Christ, looking upon the beauty of His face. They hear me when I ask them to pray and intercede for me. I pray that one day I may be counted worthy to look upon them again.

I have started a page containing things which have been a help and consolation to me on this journey of grief. None of these words are my own - they are all from the Holy Fathers, the Church hymnography, etc. I will add to it from time to time. I hope that something you may find on that page will ease the pain in your heart a little.

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Miscarriage Blanket Crochet Patterns

After a significant amount of work, I have written out (hopefully correctly) the patterns for five different miscarriage blankets with schematic drawings and photos. They can be found on the "Blanket Patterns" page. I hope this will be helpful to those who have emailed me over the last year and a half to ask for the patterns.You are free to use any or all of them as long as you do not sell the patterns or blankets made from the patterns, or post the pattern somewhere else. Please link back instead. Thank you!!

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

New Resource Added

I was just made aware of a new program to put together memory boxes for families who have lost babies in the first two trimesters (especially the second). So many memory boxes and clothing items are made and donated for babies lost in the third trimester, but not so many for the second. Crystal created You are my Child in memory of her son Nathan lost at 16 weeks to a cord accident.

"...one of the things I wished that I'd had was a blanket or outfit, sized for him. I remember them handing him to me in a standard sized newborn hospital blanket. He was only 6 1/2" long which was overwhelming enough. The blanket made it worse by swallowing him and emphasizing how tiny he was. In the emotion and shock of the moment, I chose not to have a picture made of my son. (One of the regrets that I live with every day.) Even now, I can't look at his memory box from the hospital. There is nothing in it that is his... nothing that he touched... not one physical reminder that he was ever born. That tears my heart to pieces.

I got online and began to research organizations and companies who offered remembrance items, specifically for families who experience miscarriage and/or 2nd trimester losses. I was disappointed to find very few. It was then, that the idea for 'You are my Child' was born. The idea was simple: help families affected by miscarriage... attach more importance to the word miscarriage. Families should be provided the same support and resources that any other family, who has lost a child, would receive. During the weeks after I delivered, I found myself wanting to shout "I wasn't sick. I didn't have a medical procedure. I didn't 'just have a miscarriage'. I had a baby. He was my child." I felt like some people thought because I didn't carry my baby to term, that my grieving process should be less painful and somehow quicker."

I have added this to the Resources page. I will be making some blankets to send to help with the memory boxes.